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Pasta e Fagioli al Forno Easy recipe and great comfort food. (My take on Rachel Ray’s recipe) Ingredients 1 lb box of Penne 1/4 lb thick bacon (5 slices diced in 1/2 inch squares) I didn’t use olive oil, I … Continue reading
When my father called asking if I would help in getting my mother a pair of shoes, I asked him her shoe size. He didn’t know so I told him to measure her feet. He came back to the phone and said “They are 12 feet long.” I said, “You mean 12 inches.” He argued with me for a while so I let it go and told him I would come over and deal with it. My father knew measurements. He could build anything; he was a master craftsman so I knew something wasn’t right. He was the caregiver for my mother who was in later stages of Alzheimer’s.
I arrived at their home and on the surface everything looked good. It was very tidy but as I worked my way around the house it became evident that my Dad was seriously confused about even the most simplest things.
He had stated that everything was breaking down in the house. He had always repaired everything himself so I wondered why he hadn’t done anything. I started with the garbage disposal that he said was broken. I walked over and switched it on and it worked fine. He apparently thought it would dispose automatically when you put stuff in it. I checked the washer and dryer; they both worked fine.
There was only mustard and ice cream in the refrigerator and a strange odor emanated from somewhere by the back door. (rotten potatoes and onions). I spent all day cleaning and explaining and writing notes by the switches. I hired the neighbor to shop and prepare food.
I left to pick up my son at school and had car trouble on the way there; transmission stuck in low.
Overwhelmed with fear of what lay ahead, I opened my bible and turned to Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
What a great scripture for me. I can trust God’s peace to guard my heart and mind through Christ Jesus.
Prayer: God, help me to trust in you and not to worry how I will accomplish all that needs to be done. In Jesus’ precious name I pray these things. Amen
If God created butterflies with iridescent wings
And He designed canaries with voices that can sing.
How can we doubt his faithfulness for prayers he’s answering
Or overlook His abilities to give us strengthening.
I pray that you will trust in Him and soon be discovering
That He can bring you peace and love through all you’re suffering
In His Love, Janis Armstrong
Since this is my first post of my first blog I will start by giving a little background in my life as a caregiver. I live with my husband who has suffered with severe back pain for over 40 years. He has had 8 back surgeries. It is very stressful living with someone in pain. Sometimes I just want to scream and run out the front door to escape the tension. But I don’t; he is the love of my life and so here I am and I am hoping that writing and sharing will be a comfort to me and to you. (As I write this he is pacing and telling me how bad he feels.)
My mom developed Alzheimer’s symptoms around age 55 and lived for 30 more years under mostly my father’s care. Toward the end, she thought I was her mother. My father developed dementia at a later age and was hospitalized with emphysema. His last words to me before he died were “my daughter is against me”. I know he wasn’t himself but it was terrible to hear.
I found myself in some very dark moments but I have managed to cope with God’s help and a sense of humor. But they were just moments and I gradually saw that I needed coping mechanisms and found several that helped.
I plan to share how I managed to get through the tough moments and even laugh through the disasters and uncomfortable situations.
If you are checking out this blog you are probably hoping for a little help in dealing with how to cope with the issues of taking care or being around someone who needs your help. I hope the ideas brought forth by me and others who comment will be encouraging and get you through the hard times.
Please feel free to comment on this blog or any comments. Ask questions. Tell us how you handled tough situations. Sometimes just knowing you aren’t alone; that others are experiencing the same things will help you cope. Share your poetry, recipies or favorite scriptures. Tell us how these things helped you. Share your craft ideas or decorating tricks.
If you have a favorite Nursing Home that you would like to share, I will post it. I dreaded finding a place for my mom and I would have loved to have had a list of nice homes to visit.
I’m a Christian and attend Calvary Chapel of Costa Mesa. I will be posting scriptures that helped me and will be happy to share yours also.